I tell my daughter that she’s beautiful every single day. I tell her that because she is – she’s beautiful inside and out and I want her to know that.
I want her to be confident in her body even though I’m not particularly confident about mine. In fact, my lack of confidence is probably the main reason that I want to make sure she has a much better attitude about the way she looks than I do.
Moving up to secondary school has had a massive influence about the way that she feels about herself and she’s started to pay more attention to the way she looks in general as well as being more interested in fitness.
She’s never been over weight or particularly unfit but even so it wasn’t that long ago that I wrote about how she came last in her school’s cross country because she thought she thought she was going to die! Now she goes swimming once a week, she’s a member of the gym and does Yoga at home as well as netball at school. She did a cross county run at school last week and came seventh which is a massive improvement for her.
She just has so much more confidence than she had even a few short months ago. Look what we did tonight while she was trying to decide what to wear for non uniform day at school tomorrow. These are the rejected outfits in case you’re wondering….
I want her to continue to be as happy with herself and her body as she is right at this minute and I know that I need to set a good example for her. It scares me when I read information like I read in the recent research from Dove – 71% of young girls have already felt pressure to be beautiful. Scary stuff although not necessarily surprising!
Dove have made a video called Legacy and I really recommend having a look at it as well as the brilliant site that they running alongside it. The site is filled with some great ways to increase self esteem in our children and it looks like a great resource for us.