….I did something today that I’m not proud of.
Miss Frugal woke up this morning with a tummy ache, nothing unusual there as she gets them quite often, After an awful time last year they were eventually diagnosed as abdominal migraines which she gets in conjunction with the dizzy spells associated with pre-migraine auras (I’d never even heard of this before!).
As soon as she told me that she was poorly, maternal instinct kicked in and I laid with her for a while and rubbed her tummy while Mr Frugal went to get her medicine. But as we laid there on her bed, my mind turned to everything I had to do today at work and how I really couldn’t take the day off with her again.
My work are actually really good with things like this and I’ve never had a problem calling them and letting them know that I can’t go in but it’s been so hectic lately that I knew that if I didn’t go in, someone would have to do my work for me as well as their own.
So instead of putting her back to bed with a hot water bottle, I helped her get dressed and dropped her off at school.
I know it doesn’t make it any better but I did at least have a word with her teacher as he knows that she suffers and are usually really good with her. I can’t fault the school, they rang me to let me know that she was still not feeling right but that she had improved a little and didn’t want to come home. Even that didn’t help me feel any better though.
I felt awful that I’d taken her in to school when she was clearly poorly that I could have cried at any point at work today and in the end I didn’t manage to finish half of what I needed to as I was feeling so guilty and stressed out.
And to top it off, when I picked them up at the end of the day Master Frugal’s teacher handed me a letter advising me that he’s had a head injury at school (just a bumped head) and that I needed to keep an eye on him.
It’s not been a good day today, fingers crossed tomorrow will be better!
Oh, that must have been really hard!
It sounds like she has great teachers – and you can take comfort in the fact that she didn't want to come home.
As the mom of four mostly grown kids I can tell you this won't be the last time something like this happens. I don't think you can be a parent without having some regrets.
(((hugs)))
She does have great teachers, I just felt that I should have been with her but I know you're right and it's definitely not going to be the last time…. Thanks for the hug x x
Urgh, I feel your pain. Every time Chick is ill I have to make these decisions and unfortunately sometimes work wins! The sucky side of being a working Mum and you certainly aren’t a bad one xx
Thanks very much, it is the bad side of working isn't it but I'm telling myself that we've got a better life because I do work (probably so I feel better about going to work instead of staying at home lol).
x x
Even when you are at home all day it is still hard deciding whether to send a child who says they are not well to school or not. You can never really tell. Please don't beat yourself up about it. If you had had no doubt in your mind you would not have sent her.
Aw thanks very much – it is difficult I guess whether you're at home or at work, I never thought of that really.
x x
It’s tough being a working mum. My daughter also started off with abdominal migraines but now has full blown migraines 🙁 thankfully she’s now able to take meds to control them. Hope tomorrow is better for you xxx
I think that's how they're expecting Bethan's abdominal migraines to progress too – I have to keep an eye on her, especially when she hits puberty. Yeay – as if it's not bad enough dreading the usual teenage hormones lol
You are one of the most caring mums I know. You would not have gone to work if you really thought she needed to be at home.
Ah thanks very much, I just felt like such a bad parent. I hate days like this x