I want what every parent wants – for my children to grow up feeling safe and loved but also confident and independent.
I think I’ve mastered the safe and loved bit but as a natural born worrier, I have to try really hard to encourage the kids to be confident and independent which is really difficult for me.
I never want them to know how much I worry when they play out with their friends and I can’t see them, or how my heart’s in my mouth when they ride their bikes too fast or even how it breaks my heart when one of them comes home upset because they’ve fallen out with their best friend. I don’t want them to realise how I worry every time they’re ill in case it’s something more than just a headache or a tummy ache and how much I dread the thought of them growing up and leaving home.
If they knew how much I worry about them, they wouldn’t be the confident, independent children that they’re growing up to be so until they’re grown up with their own children, it’ll be our secret 😉
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I believe it is only normal to feel that way. Most mothers are just like you but yes, you should not let them become too dependent to you even at their young age.
Cherry Wynn
I'm exactly the same, they never tell you before you have children how much it is possible to worry about your children!
its good to know i'm not the only worrier!
It looks as though there's lots of us about lol x
It sounds like you worry just as much as me! I'm te same, I feel torn over how much to show of it for fear of making him over sensitive and worried like I am!
That's exactly how I feel, I'm a natural worrier and I don't want them to feel the same way.
Oh an I am so with you with the se secret worries!!!
I'm glad it's not just me x
You are not alone in worrying about your kids. My heart is often in my mouth as they have yet another bamboo sword fight and jump out of another tree. It is only now I am a mother myself I realise how cool my parents were and how much independence they gave me. I think you are right – the key is to keep your worrying secret!
It's difficult though isn't it?
😉