I have a bit of a dilemma. Miss Frugal has a friend who lives on the same street as us but doesn’t go to the same school (thankfully), since the start of the school holidays they’ve been playing together more than usual. The problem is, I really don’t like this little girl and I would much prefer that they didn’t play together as much.
I know that not all children will behave as I expect my two to behave but I can’t stand it when children lie or when they bully others and this little girl does both. From what I can tell, she’s lovely most of the time but can be quite mean and has reduced several of the other little girls in their group to tears lately, she’s also been mean to Master Frugal a few times although she’s never mean to Miss Frugal. She tries to stop the others playing with her and Miss Frugal and I do know that she’s lied to me at least once. I won’t go into much more detail as I’m not really comfortable talking about another child on the internet but suffice to say, I have my reasons for not liking this little girl.
I’ve had a chat with Miss Frugal and she is well aware that this little girl can be mean, she knows it’s wrong and says she won’t be tempted to act in the same way but for some reason she still wants to play with her. I don’t understand why but after asking for some advice on Twitter, I’m trying hard to let her make her own decisions in the hope that she’ll realise what this little girls like soon enough and if not, they’re back at school in a few weeks when she’ll more than likely be back playing with her own school friends. If all else fails, the nights will be drawing in soon and it will be too cold for the kids to play outside too much 😉
I’m sure she’s not the last of my children’s friends that I won’t approve of but she’s the first one – Am I doing the right thing to let them continue playing together or would you put a stop to it?
