Miss Frugal likes to think of herself as a very stylish 8 year old.
She has a big box filled with handbags and purses (she must be one of the only 8 year olds around who has a Radley purse) and she has more pairs of shoes than I have. She’s quite a girly girl and loves to wear dresses, skirts and anything else pink or sparkly. Although I often don’t love her clothes choices, she has her own style and I encourage that wherever possible by letting her choose all of her own clothes.
I’m quite laid back about the clothes that she wears (she’d say the opposite) and she does have a few things that some people may consider she’s too young for – she has a pair of heeled party shoes for example along with a couple of party dresses that I was a bit unsure of when she chose them but I ended up letting her buy them as they’re not low cut or very short, they’re just an older style if you know what I mean. Anything designed to make young girls look sexy is definitely out and she’s really good at knowing that when I say no, I do mean no.
We’ve started to do a lot of our clothes shopping on ebay, which, apart from the fact it’s a lot cheaper, there’s a lot more choice on there so when I say no to something, there’s lots of other things to look at. The other day, we were looking at swimsuits on there as Miss Frugal is going to be going swimming four mornings a week for six weeks when she goes back to school and I found a bundle of swimwear for her age and size for just a few pound. We bid on it and were really pleased to win the bundle of four swimming costumes for just £2.00.
A couple of days later the postman brought them and she opened them excitedly and pulled out the four swimsuits which were every bit as pink and girly as she’d hoped for. Then she pulled out some extra items that the seller had kindly added in – four bikinis. I’m not exactly against bikinis for her age as long as the tops are more like a vest style top rather than a bra and to be fair, three of them were like this so I will let her wear them (not to go swimming with the school mind) but one of them was just little triangles of material held together with string – risque enough for a grown up and ridiculous for an 8 year old!
Just look at it:
Apart from the fact that I think it’s extremely inappropriate for an 8 year old, when she tried it on (yes, she loved it as soon as she saw it), it kept riding up as she doesn’t have anything to fill it out and anchor it down as it were 😉 Inappropriate and impractical then!
I feel better now I’ve got that off my chest, oh and now the bikini’s in the bin lol.
I read a good post on this very same subject the other day over at Mummy From the Heart – pop over and have a look (once you’ve left me a lovely comment that is!).
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I will forward this post to him. Pretty sure he will have a good read. Many thanks for sharing!
Thanks x
It is certainly hard to find appropriate things for little girls these days. Good for you for teaching from a young age what is appropriate. I'm a new follower from MBC–would love a follow back. http://missmoe-thesearethedaysofmylife.blogspot.c…
Thank you very much – I'm following you now too x
Im always shocked by a lot of the clothes department stores sell these days to even younger children! there's enough time for all those kind of clothes when they hi their teenage years (and even short short skirts and barely there tops will be out the window!) Kids should be kids for as long as possible!!
Hannah x
Exactly my thoughts x
You know my thoughts on this! Gosh, what a bikini, belongs in the playhouse mansion I feel! I am so old beyond my years nowadays! Whoops
Mich x
I know what you mean, I feel really old when we walk down the street and see what some of the young girls are wearing 😉
Eldest Daughter I should have said there….lol DS would not have been impressed with a tankini!!! lol!!
lol now that would have made an interesting post 😉
Yep totally with you. I bought my eldest a tankini one year but the top almost met the bottoms, but it was only for the paddling pool not the public pool. There just isn't any need for those at that age is there? Bit like an 8 year old gobsmacking the PE dept with a padded bra….. just not on.
It's mad isn't it – there's enough time for all that when they're grown up!
I hate this!! I really do! I've been wanting to blog about the risque outfits that young girls seem to be wearing now a days but the lack of a female child holds me back. I can quite happily say one reason I'm pleased I dont have a girl is that I dont have to spend time pleading with her to cover up and explaining that certain outfits can be rather inappropriate to wear!!
You should blog about it anyway 😉
I can tell the teenage years are going to be a nightmare lol
I totally agree. Children are children and should be dressed as such in my view. It's a huge problem I think, I mean who in god's name would dress their little girl in a t-shirt with 'Porn Star' emblazoned on the chest, but I've seen it *tsk*. It's undoubtedly a bigger problem for mum's of daughters so I thank my lucky stars that I had boys!
I agree completely x x