Before my children were born I had some very definite expectations about what my life as a parent would be like but like most new parents, I very quickly realised that the reality of being a parent was very, very different to what I’d though
In my head, my children were going to be model children who were always well behaved, spoke when they were spoken to and were always beautifully dressed. In reality, they were spirited children who questioned just about everything and never shut up and as for the beautifully dressed part, there were times when I was just grateful that I managed to dress them – never mind that they were more often than not wearing odd socks, a tiara and a super hero cape!
I was a much more organised and patient parent in my head and I imagined that I would be much better at crafting that I really am. I also never thought I’d be in a position to share my eight greatest parenting fails with you as I did last year. Some of my fails make me cringe even now but I think it’s important to share that things aren’t perfect in our house because it’s far from how I pictured it would be at times.
My expectations as far as the financial side of things was way off the mark too as I remember saying to Mr Frugal when I was pregnant with Miss Frugal that a baby couldn’t be that expensive. I was expecting to be able to rely on family for childcare as much as possible, breastfeeding would cut down on costs in that department and in my mind, there wasn’t much else that we’d have to pay out for.
It turns out that I was completely wrong, which isn’t a huge surprise considering that 80% of people in a recent survey had also completely underestimated the cost of raising a child according to some research done recently by Whitestep. Even without the unexpected costs of childcare and formula milk (that’s two whole other posts for another day), I would still have been totally off base with my conservative estimations of how much the first few years would cost us.
Obviously it’s all been totally worth it but thinking about my parenting expectations has made me smile tonight as I’ve just done the Whitestep Parenting Expectations Vs Reality quiz over on their site. I actually did quite well but I can picture what my younger self would have answered to all of the questions and had she been completing it we would have failed big time!
Have a go at the quiz yourself and see how you get on….
PS All of the pictures in this post are from my first month of blogging way back when – don’t tell the kids that I’ve shared them again though. 😉
Don’t miss out on future posts like this – receive updates directly to your inbox by email by adding your email address here and hitting subscribe. You can also follow me on Twitter, BlogLovin or Networked Blogs and I’d love to see you over on my Facebook page and on Instagram. Collaborative post.