Usually at this time of year I feel compelled to write something about why I’m not a fan of Mothers Day and over the years I’ve even written the occasional letter or two to my lovely Mum.
I think about my Mum on a daily basis, often asking myself what she would do or wishing that I could share something with her, but this time of year is generally quite hard to deal. Usually I try to avoid as much of the Mothers Day hype as possible which is a shame as I know that my children want to show me how much they love me as much as I wish I could have the chance to show my Mum.
I didn’t think this year would be any different to my usual Mothers Day so I told the kids that I didn’t want a present and instructed Mr Frugal that if they insisted on buying me something then to make it something small and that as ever, I didn’t want a big fuss.
But then last night something happened to make me change my plans for Mothers Day this year!
I came home from work later than usual to a super clean and sparkly house courtesy of Miss Frugal who, according to her Dad, spent two hours cleaning the house from top to bottom – she even tidied and cleaned the inside of the fridge!
I bet you’re wondering why a thirteen year old would spend her Friday night cleaning a house aren’t you? You’d be forgiven for thinking that she wanted something (she usually does to be fair) as that was my first thought but actually, it was her Mothers Day gift to me because I’d told her that I didn’t want a present and that didn’t sit right with her.
She understands why I feel like the way I do about Mothers Day but wanted to do something anyway to show me how much she loves me and this was the best thing she could think of!
Her gesture made me realise that Mothers Day is as much about the kids as it is about me and that by choosing not to celebrate the day, I’m making them unhappy because they see and hear all the hype and they want to do something for me to show me that they love me on the day that they consider to be my special day.
So, thanks to my very wonderful daughter, we’re going to be celebrating tomorrow instead of me pretending it’s not happening. I’ll still think about my Mum, it’s impossible not to, but mainly I’m just going to sit back and enjoy whatever my two amazing children have planned for me.
Oh, and I’ve explained to Mr Frugal that the present buying ban has been lifted to – no point doing things by halves is there?
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What a wonderful act of kindness! This is what Mother's Day should all be about!
What a lovely gift from your daughter, not only is your house sparkling but it has renewed you joy for Mothers Day. Hope you got those flowers xx
That is such a sweet and thoughtful act of kindness. My five year old made lots of paper banners with hearts on and stuck them to the wall. he was so excited to show me x
Awww, it's so nice that they cleaned the house for you. I'm not a fan of Mother's Day at all. Stephen
Oh gosh, this actually made me cry. I am exactly the same, I want as little fuss on Mothers Day as possible for the same reasons. It's a hard day. But what a wonderful gesture from a lovely daughter.
What a thoughtful daughter you have. You must be very proud. I hope you have a special day.
I'm sat here on Mother's day, just like my birthday a few days ago. No one has wished me happy mothers day, not even hubby. They are both playing on computers, while I've been doing laundry and preparing the meat and veggies for Sunday dinner. The house is a tip, so much more than I can handle with being ill yet hubby dismissed me saying I wanted a cleaner for 1 day for my birthday. I feel very let down after everything I struggle to do for this family. I'll be going on strike soon.
Your daughter looks lovely, Cass.
For what it's worth, I think she's absolutely right. I can't imagine life without my Mum but I hope one of the ways I can honour her is by letting my children have the same sort of memories of me as I have of her. And your kids will have the same of you x
She really is a credit to you Cass and this is how I feel and also how I feel about Christmas. I miss my mum and live my a Mum shaped hole, but the kids also delight in surprising me on Monther's Day, so I will embrace it.
Oh bless her. I just cried reading that, what a sweetheart she is. Ha ha I hope Mr Frugal didn't have a mad dash to the shops today after you lifted the ban, I can just imagine him and the kids rushing out and coming home weighed down with tons of pressies for you. So glad that you feel you can celebrate the day with the kids now, your mum knew how much you love her, it's evident in everything you've ever written about her and she would want your kids to be able to show you how much they love you too on Mother's Day. Have a lovely day gorgeous. Will be thinking of you and your lovely mum x
This genuinely brought a tear to my eye. I’m going to be plastering on a fake smile for the sake of my girls this year but I’ll be saving a tear for after their bedtime. Hope you manage to have a nice day.
Beautiful, what a kind girl you are raising Cass. Mich x
What a lovely thing to do, what a lovely girl you have. I hope you enjoy your Mother’s Day tomorrow x