I love my home and have since we moved into it but if I’m absolutely honest with you, it’s not my dream home. I almost got my dream home though way back before Miss Frugal was born so today, I’m going to tell you how I knew when I’d found my dream home and how you will too.
You get the butterflies
Think of just about every romantic comedy you’ve ever seen – cast your mind back to the moment the lead characters spot each other from across the room and see each other for the first time. That’s how you should feel when you first see the house!
It’s how I felt as I wandered around my dream house and the more we saw, the more excited I started to feel about it. I started to feel quite emotional as we viewed the house as I could picture our family growing into it.
Forgive the flaws
If you find yourself in a house where you can’t see past the smaller than you’d like oven size, it’s probably not going to be your home any time soon. When you see a flaw and are willing to overlook it, that’s when you know it’s the house for you! For me, I was able to overlook the fact that the street was busier than I would have liked and the main room downstairs was quite dark because I could see the sea from my kitchen window and loved everything else about the house.
No more dealbreakers
Even if you’re willing to look past some of the buildings minor flaws, your deal breakers are still your deal breakers. So even if there’s a decent size oven, a too small kitchen could be something you can’t overlook. You should definitely have a list of deal breakers because emotion when you see your dream house might take over and you might have buyers regret later.
Putting your twist on it
No house you view is going to be perfect, not even a three-storey mansion. You’ll always have to put your own stamp on it when it comes to furniture, paint, and landscaping. But can you see how you’d like it to look, where you’d put your furniture? If you can’t help but start to make your own interior plans and to think of what you could do to the space the house offers you then you may have found the one for you! I had so many plans when we viewed our dream home that I literally had to write things down because I couldn’t switch off thinking about it all.
Pride in your place
I looked at the house we loved and could picture having our friends around for barbecues in the Summer and could see the fun we’d have in the huge dining room having games nights. I also could see how fun all of the cool little nooks and crannies would be for the kids growing up as they invited their friends around. If you can imagine how happy you would be inviting friends into your home then this could be another factor in deciding if you’ve found your dream home.
It meets your external needs
Even if you’re in love with the house itself, there might be other reasons why it’s not the one for you. You may not even bother looking at the house if it doesn’t meet your commute or school standards, especially if you’re a family because as much as you may love the home, you won’t be able to change traffic patterns, parking issues or school catchment areas.
You can’t get it out of your head
If you find that you can’t stop thinking about the house and that you’re comparing all of the other houses you see to it then you could have found the one! I went back to my dream house with my Mam the very next day because I just had to see if it was as perfect as I’d remembered it to be and you know what, it was!
I didn’t get my dream house in the end though and even now, I still drive past it every now and again just to see if it’s up for sale again as I’d be super tempted if it was. We didn’t get it because the lady who lived there had lived there all of her grown-up life and had seen her children grow from babies to adults in that house. She accepted our offer but was very reluctant to move and just couldn’t commit to a date as it would take her months to go through everything to get herself ready to even think of moving. I was devastated but we had to pull out of the sale and nothing else that we looked at even compared.
We bought a different house which we then sold for the house we’re living in right now and I’ve learned that as much as I loved that house, I love where we are now in a different way because I’ve made it from a new build bog standard house into the home we all love. It might not have the sea view and the secret spaces that the other house had but it contains a lot of memories and is definitely us!
Which brings me to my last point – you might find your dream home but for one reason or another then it’s not the one for you. If that happens then it’s not the end of the world, you will find somewhere else that’s just as perfect for you in another way.
Just remember that if it’s the cost that’s making your dream house unobtainable then don’t be tempted to break the budget and go for something you can’t afford. We ended up buying a smaller house than we could have afforded because it was important to us to have enough money left over after our bills each month to be able to live a nice lifestyle.
You might have different priorities and that’s not a problem as long as you make sure you can afford the price you pay – don’t get sucked into a bidding war and keep increasing by small amounts to close the deal because the small amounts all add up. You can always seek help when purchasing your home from a company like FBC solicitors to support you throughout the house building process.
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