Butter wouldn't melt
When I picked Miss Frugal up from school today her teacher asked if she could have a word with me…. Uh Oh!
She said that she had put Miss Frugal in the Behaviour Book and given her detention for tomorrow lunchtime after she had got in trouble today. Apparently, my darling little girl kicked a boy on his shin. Hard.
I don’t doubt for one minute that it was an accident and she’s explained to me that she was playing chase with them and the boy caught her and she just kicked out at him. I believe her completely as I know from watching her with play with her friends at school and at parties that there are a group of 3 boys that chase her and her friend everywhere and sometimes their games do get a bit rough and I have to step in but even if it was an accident as part of a rough game, the fact is that she did kick him and she did hurt him so I accept that she does need to be punished.
So far, other than a few words in the car, I haven’t told her off as she didn’t stop crying till about 5’o’clock about the fact she has detention and is now in the Behaviour book ‘forever’. I didn’t want to start her off again so I told her we would talk about it later when she’s calmed down and now I’m not sure what to say to her, do I just tell her to be careful next time she’s playing chase or should I punish her further.
What would you do – punish her or just leave it now?
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At the school I work at as a Children's Lunchtime Supervisor any child of her age who did that would just have been told the game was too rough and to be careful in future. The child who was kicked would have been checked out and written in the first aid book. We do not have a behaviour book for misdemeanours such as that. Older children who did something deliberately would be reported to their teacher and given a yellow card. For KS2 children we use a yellow card system for misbehaviour, 2 yellow cards, then the 3rd is a red and you miss your play by sitting out.
I think she knows it was wrong and she has been punished by school. Doesn't seem like she is normally a naughty child and is very upset about being in the behaviour book so I don't think you need to punish her. Teachers, TAs and lunchtime supervisors know who the habitually naughty children are and who the good children are – trust me.
That's a much better scheme to have rather than punishing children the first time for boisterous behaviour. It was awful to see her so upset.
Thank you x x
She's been punished at school. I'd leave it at that, but let her know that if her teacher tells you she's done something similar again, then there will be punishment at home too.
That's exactly what I did x x
The school has dealt with it, she knows you know and said a few things at the time and she is obviously remorseful, so I would just let it lie.
That's what I did in the end – sure she won't do it again 😉
punished by school that's enough for this "offence" especially as not malicious x
I agree – I couldn't punish her as sje was already so upset and it was an accident 😉
Oh dear! This is my daughter almost every day! I wouldn't make a big deal of it if she's so upset just tell her that you hope she learnt her lesson! Too cute! x
she def learnt her lesson lol – she was mortified to be in the behaviour book!
Sounds like she feels really emotional about the whole experience. I would just suggest she take a deep breath before she does anything when playing the game in the future. I would only go further if it happens again. Sounds like the whole group needs to have a chat about rough play, not just your daughter… Looks a mischievous sweetie to me!