You might remember that a few weeks ago we had our first broken heart when Master Frugal was dumped by his girlfriend in favour of someone who’s apparently cuter than him! He was most concerned that he was going to be single forever and had a whole day of being miserable before finding himself another girlfriend – as you do when you’re seven.
They had a lovely week or so together until yesterday, when his new girlfriend told him that she didn’t want a boyfriend any more. She announced at Breakfast Club that all boys are annoying and she’s going to just play with girls from now on!
He recovered a lot quicker from this break up and managed to find himself a new girlfriend by break time. By the end of the day, they were definitely in love and Master Frugal was counting how many years it was until he was eighteen and could marry her. I didn’t like to point out that with his track record, it’d all be over by the weekend.
Today I noticed his new girlfriend in the school playground with her Mam, pointing to Master Frugal and proudly telling her that the little boy rolling around on the school field pretending to be some sort of dinosaur was her boyfriend and that she loved him.
How cute is that?
Or at least it was until her mother opened her mouth and said ‘What, the ginger one!’
Yes, she was referring to the the little boy with ginger hair who is the kindest, most caring, loving and generous little boy (unless he’s tired then he’s best avoided ;-)). He certainly doesn’t need adults judging him or commenting on the colour of his hair in that way and even though I’m probably over reacting, I don’t appreciate comments like that from other parents in the school who really should know better.
*breathes a big sigh of relief now that’s off my chest*
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I'm blonde (these days heavily 'assisted' by my lovely hairdresser) and am happy to make blonde jokes about myself, but I was teased mercilessly at school because of my ski-jump nose. I undoubtedly teased people a fair bit too, but this was never condoned or encouraged by my parents. They'd be appalled. It is a parent's job to teach tolerance and inclusion not perpetuate stereotypes.
Sounds like (at best) this silly lady spoke before she thought. Your son is completely gorgeous, and, as you and all the other commenters have said, people are much more than the colour of their hair, skin, or anything else for that matter. xxx
Exactly x x
Well really – what a numpty. Hope she reads your blog.
Numpty sums it up x
Just seen your post on parent bloggers group on Facebook.I'm was going to write a post about red heads (well my top 5 men).Reading your post made me think though and I probably won't do it now.I'm 4 "11 and I was bullied and teased and called all sorts through my school life for being really short.But my son seems to have taken it on his stride being and likes being called little man.Hugs to Master Frugal x
Aw thanks very much – hope you still write your post though x x x
As the proud mum of a beautiful red head little girl, this makes me a quite cross. I tell her everyday that she has beautiful hair in the hope that if anyone is ever mean to her she will be able to ignore it.
I do worry about her in the future though, kids ( and parents ) can be mean. xx
That's my worry – that in the future someone will be mean to them about it and make them feel bad.
Sigh WHy don't people just say red head.!
Exactly!
Had to comment on this! As a fellow red head I was bullied all through school for the colour of my hair. It wasn't until I was a teen (and had dyed it black, pink, blue & purple) that I finally embraced my ginger ness and went back red. Which I've proudly been since. It's faded to a more strawberry blonde as the years have gone on so i've taken to dying it redder! I've never been so proud as when my son was born displaying a shock of strawberry hair too. We're a dying breed apparently! Parents should be more careful with their words – that little boy with the red hair perhaps? Some people use ginger in the derogatory sense but I'm reclaiming it as a compliment! I am ginger & proud! Your children are utterly gorgeous & I hope they grow up to know how unique & beautiful their hair is. Bloody parents. Rant over!
Aw thanks very much for your rant on my part – I agree with EVERY word you said!
I think you know how angry this makes me. Your children are so much more than the colour of their hair. In fact their hair makes them part of a very special small group. It is so funny that when they are with the boys and Tori that red heads are the majority leaving the brunet and blond as lone heads! I would never call them ginger and I know that Drew only calls Master F it, as he told him to call him the ginger ninja!
He loves being called a Ginger Ninja – he made it up and thinks it's cool lol
It just annoys me when other people judge people based on the colour of their hair or even when they just make an off hand comment that they dont really mean any harm by – those comments are the one that other children will pick up on and then possibly bully him because of it….