I just read an interesting article on Parentdish about having a favourite child and it made me ask myself if I have a favourite. My two are so completely different that sometimes I wonder that they’re actually related!
Miss Frugal is the eldest, she’s 8 in a couple of weeks although you may well mistake her for a teenager on occasion (check out the attitude on that photo)! She’s pretty well behaved most of the time and likes to think that she’s in charge of everything and everyone. She’s never been shy or had a problem making friends or learning new things and wherever she is, she tends to be the centre of attention. Her school reports tend to go along the lines of excellent work but talks too much. 
Master Frugal is 5 and is the complete opposite, he’s shy and takes time to get to know people before he makes friends. He’s the cuddliest child I ‘ve ever known and he tells me at least once an hour that he loves me to the moon and back 62 hundred times. He’s well behaved on the whole but when he does something naughty, he gets genuinely upset if he gets told off with big tears rolling down his little cheeks, he looks so cute that he’s hard to tell off when he gets like that lol – maybe that’s his plan!
He struggled a lot with his confidence when he went from Nursery to Reception last year and although he has improved a lot he is a bit behind in his work now. His school reports are mostly about what a lovely little boy he is and they always say that he looks after any children in his class who are upset for any reason and looks out for lonely children. His teacher describes him as a sensitive soul which I think fits him really well.
Depite their differences and the different challenges that each of their characters bring, I wouldn’t change anything about them. Their characters are what makes them the children that I love and I love them both more than I would have ever thought possible – most importantly, I love them equally.
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I can't imagine what it would feel like to know that one of your parents favoured one child over another, espcially if you are the less favoured one. As a parent we have a duty to make sure that our dhildren grow up happy and feeling loved, equally loved as any other sibling. If our children are led to believe otherwise then we have failed as parents!
*jumps down from soapbox*
I'm so sorry your mum made you feel that way – at least you know you know that you wont do the same with your children x x
My little boy is only just about to turn 7 months, but l can already see his unique personality and my love for him is just as strong as for his nealy 6 older sister.
It is quite upsetting when you see people you know favouring one child over another and it is something we have vowed never to do, though I think sometimes you see that it must be difficult for parents dealing with a child who has learning difficulties that impact the family, so in that respect it is easier for us to love our two equally. (I try not to judge others too harshly, especially when I haven't lived their life)
I can see that there are some circumstances where parents may find it difficult not to favour one child over the other and I think that the key there would be to make sure that they didn't show either of the children their feelings, all children need to feel that they are loved equally. x x
I love my children for their uniquness and the fact they are individuals. Before Miini came along I never thought it possible, but it is true. Now I dont always like them all the time, but love them, well it is in my blood
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[...] reading the title of Magic Mummy’s post ‘Do you have a favourite child?‘ at Diary of a Frugal Family sent my brain into overdrive. Favouritism is something I [...]
I love mine each in different ways. Each child needs something different. It is a great thing to think about! Thanks for linking upat Making Friends Monday! I already follow your great blog! Have a great week! http://www.livingonloveandcents.blogspot.com
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I have four and they are all completely different. I love them all equally but I also love them all differently which is something I didn't expect as a parent.
I know – I didn't expect to love mine as much as I did and in so many different ways
This is something I really do need to blog about. Will pop back with the link.
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Oooh look forward to reading it x
Done… It's a slightly different take.. but http://mygoodlife.me.uk/2010/08/30/favouritism-do…
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Its the same here, I don't have a favourite because they are both so different and you can't compare them to each other. I do think that both the OH and I have worked hard to have great relationships with both our children because of what it was like when we were growing up. I can see favourites in his family and he can see them in mine, and although we weren't really aware of them as we grew up they are obvious to strangers looking in.
I know what you mean – I can see favourites in OH's family and I really don't want my two to ever think one of them is loved more than the other.
I love the relationships that I have with my kids and hope it lasts as they grow up to moody teenagers lol
I don't think it is possible to have a favourite. Everyone just has up and down days, thats all.
Thats what I think too x